Maybe you got me wrong here
I’m definitely not saying or even suggesting that the numbers in the benchmark that compares Mist with the alternatives are wrong/faked/whatever 
What I object to is that your statement “Mist is a ton faster than Cowboy” conveys the impression that, no matter what you do, it will be faster if you use Mist/Bandit/Elli/etc instead of Cowboy. That may or may not be the case, however the benchmarks do not prove that, they only compare simple request/response times. What I really asked for were not more benchmarks for request/response times but benchmarks that compare more than just that.
To stay with my previous analogy… so we got the idea that walking is faster than driving because walking over to your neighbors house was faster than getting in your car, driving over, and getting out of your car again. And when your neighbor walked vs drove over to his neighbor, it was pretty much the same. Proof! 
But unless you try out the same with a destination in the next city, chances are that you are in for a surprise later. Know what I mean? 
I agree and disagree
Having choices is good, yes. One-size-fits-all often just doesn’t work.
OTOH, in this case the alternatives are in no way drop-in replacements for each other, things that you can just swap out. You will have to make a pretty definitive choice early in your project.
To make an informed choice, mere comparison of performances is not enough. What about features? Limitations? Maintainability? Robustness? Support? Etc etc?
Performance is of course something to consider, but it may not be at the top of your list. I mean, if you can have speed, who would say no to that, but if there is some critical feature missing in the fast thingie that the slower thingie has, that may be more important.
tl;dr: What I’m missing is an extensive, unbiased, up-to-date (and maintained) comparison of the choices, not just in speed but also in features 
Polls like this don’t help much in that regard, I’m afraid (sorry @AstonJ
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But how about that: All the maintainers of the mentioned projects are in this forum? How about you stick your heads together and compile such a list, to help people like me make the best of choices for their specific use cases? 